Having the sex life that you want...Let's face it, relationships are filled with compromises, BUT how far should you take the compromise? Does it include sex? What are you willing to give up for the sake of balance? Are you willing to sacrifice some of your most sensual pleasures for the sake of meeting your mate halfway? Weighing it all out can be a bit daunting, but sex should be the fun part of the relationship so let's lighten it up a bit!
A Fan or Nah?
There may be times that your mate may enjoy certain pleasures that you have absolutely no interest in. So you need to ask yourself the question: Am I not a fan, or is this against my moral makeup? If it's leaning more towards you not being a fan...and it doesn't make you gag (no pun intended), then why not give it a shot? You never know, maybe it's because of who you tried it with before. Perhaps the chemistry wasn't there to make it what it needed to be, who knows? Just give it the old college try, and at least if you don't like it, you don't have to do it again, and you can hold that over your mate's head as an "you owe me one"...BUT let's be fair, if it's something you can tolerate, but it doesn't make you quiver, that's fine, just make it an on occasion bonus for your mate...you have no idea how turned on your mate will be at the fact that you're making the "sacrifice" for them.
Now the tables have turned. You have some activity that you you're really into and your mate, not so much. You want to definitely be suggestive in your positioning, without coming across as demanding. If it's something that your mate has never tried, well that's a bit easier, because they don't really know that they don't like it. You may be introducing them to something that they may be into just as much as you are, so make sure you make a great first impression. Now, if it is something they've experimented with, and it's not their cup of tea, this task (hate using that word relating to sex, ugh) may be a bit more challenging. If this is something that turns their stomach, well, you may just have to agree to disagree and leave this one alone, or if you think your skills of persuasion are just that good, well put them to work. You may even think of doing something nice for them the earlier part of the day, complementing them.... hey, you're trying to get something you want here so, depending on how badly you want this thing to actually happen, you may need to turn it up a bit, right? You could just luck out and your mate may have had a not so good experience with someone else, but with you, they could love it, never know right, until you try.
In the end, the sexual chemistry is already there, so no matter if these acts are played out frequently, or not at all, you and your mate have kept it interesting enough thus far, so be confident that there are a million other activities that you two can explore to keep your relationship fun and spiced up.